Welcome to Navigating Cyberloss

Dear readers,

To those of you who have found this blog out of necessity, I am sorry for your loss. It’s never easy to lose somebody, and it’s arguably worse to lose somebody without a chance to say goodbye or have some way of remembering them. I hope that through reading this blog, you can find your own way to memorialize the important person whose loss you are so keenly feeling at this time.

If you have found this blog out of curiosity, I am pleased to welcome you, and hope that you will gain an understanding of how important and life-changing online friendships can be, and how significant  the loss of such a friendship is. I invite both groups, as well as those I may not have named here, to share their experiences and reflect on the changing circumstances of modern life which have made this blog the necessity that I feel it is.

I never intended to start the blog, I guess these things just happen sometimes . The triggering event occurred in 2007, when Chris (a friend in Argentina whom I’d come to know through the official George Harrison forum) passed away from breast cancer at the age of 39. I spent the next three years in varying degrees of fog, before deciding I probably ought to do something about channelling the experience into a format which might help others. Hence, this blog was born on November 30, 2010.

On January 22, 2011 I received more bad news about another friend in Tennessee – Kim had passed away from complications associated with anorexia. So I began to blog how I felt about that, and continue to do so to this day.

Writing this blog has been very useful to me so far in terms of the therapeutic value. I hope that it will bring comfort and understanding to all who might care to come in and sit a while with those of us who have experienced such loss.

Best wishes to each and every one of you who reads this,

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11 Responses to Welcome to Navigating Cyberloss

  1. Casey, what a remarkably apt, wonderful idea this is, in this age of cyber friendship. If I weren’t lying sideways, typing with one hand on my netbook, I’d say more. Later…and thanks for your kindness about Rachel.

    • Casey B says:

      Hi, Kathi.

      Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate your taking the time to write. From what I’ve learned of Rachel through reading your posts and those of others, I can see she made a big impact. Well, everybody does in some way, I guess…but the interconnectedness is part of why it hurts so much to lose cyberfriends.

      Wishing you strength and peace on your journey,


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  3. What a lovely tribute to your friends. I never gave any thought to this kind of grief until I found your blog. As the above poster said it is certainly very apt and very thoughtful.
    My best wishes to you.

  4. Casey,
    I’m finally making my way to your site. I think you have a wonderful idea/site here. I’m sorry for your losses and appreciate what you are doing to help others experiencing loss.

    • Casey B says:

      Thanks, Nancy.

      I appreciate your support. It feels like the right thing to do, and the right time to do it, I guess. Any later, and I wouldn’t have remembered the detail, any earlier and it would’ve been too raw. Now I just have to work on promoting this a bit more.

      Hope to hear more from you as time permits,


  5. createwithjoy says:

    Hi Casey,

    Thank you for visiting Create With Joy! Your idea for starting this blog is really visionary. We live in a changing world and many of us form significant friendships with people in cyberspace that we have never met. It can be every bit as much of a shock and a jolt when someone in our online circle is lost.

    I look forward to getting to know you and I invite you to connect with my community through Inspire Me Monday, Wordless Wednesday and Friendship Friday. I am following you on Linky Followers and Twitter and invite you to stay in touch!

    Create With Joy

  6. Michael Dunbar says:

    . My name is Michael. I lost a long term online partner within the last week. Her name was Christine, I met her playing an online game called lineage 2 and played alongside her since 2002 pretty much daily until we fell in love. We never managed to meet face to face due to many reasons and it’s something I’ll always regret.

    • Michael Dunbar says:

      Also the game itself was such a massive part of our lives together and now she’s gone it’s basically unplayable for me as all it does is blast me with memories constantly that I struggle with. Also talking to people in my life about her is untenable as they would never understand my relationship with her

  7. Hi Michael,

    So sorry to hear of your loss. I can relate to what you say about the game, and talking to people in real life. Both are tricky.

    ‘We never managed to meet face to face due to many reasons and it’s something I’ll always regret.’ – I know that feeling too.

    Take care,


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