I am sorry that this month’s ‘article’ is late…it’s taken me a while to get a handle on what I wanted to write about…I suppose this should have been one of my first posts, because it’s something I’ve been doing all the way through, but there we go.
Words are a gift when we find ourselves grieving the loss of a friend or another loved one. (Granted, when cyberloss is up for discussion, the right words seem to be more difficult to come by.) Perhaps a friend or family member might offer some words that start the healing process.
In the midst of it, however, it can be very helpful to simply take the time to absorb what has happened. It is during this time that we often become our own best advisers. Many times I have reached for a notebook in the middle of a sleepless night, and written with my own hand the truth I needed to hear.
Each of us who have experienced loss has our own unique story, our own truth. Writing poetry is just one way to get access to it. Sharing such poetry is optional, although it can be one way to spark a rewarding conversation. Your relationship with the person who passed was a unique gift, and one way of continuing to honour them is to share their impact on your life.
Of course, if writing isn’t your thing, there are a variety of other creative ways to at least help externalize some of those feelings. I’ve written before about origami as a tool, and music can be helpful as well. Playing it, or listening to it.
What are your favourite creative ways to deal with grief? Please feel free to share in the comments.
Wishing you peace and strength on your journeys,