The way in which we communicate with our online friends is different to the way in which we communicate with anybody else, as we are brought together by specific shared interests. Some are shared from the start, as mine and Chris’ interest in George Harrison and his music. I had to develop an interest in gardening, however, because I knew nothing. Gardening wasn’t a focal point of our conversations, but I remember that she used to mention more about that publicly on the message board. Most of our conversations were about George Harrison, or guitars, or just general music discussion.
I can have similar conversations with others, but they are obviously not the same. However, as a way of honouring Chris, and recognising the influence she has had and continues to have on my life I have begun to seek discussion groups and situations where I can have these similar conversations. It is of course important that those situations are not triggers, but I’ve been lucky so far. It could be that with the passage of time, they have become easier to handle anyway, but I’m not certain.
It can be difficult for those who make the choice to return to a community after a member’s passing, knowing that there will be developments in that community that they will not see, but our enjoyment of those developments is a way of honouring them.
Forgive me, but this is where my mind wanders these days. So, I’m wondering whether we can have a conversation in the comments about that – do you have any shared interests with departed online friends that you can carry on with others? Please feel free to leave a comment and share your experience of continuing those interests, or returning to online communities.
Wishing you peace and strength on your journeys,