Sorry it’s been quiet around here, but I’ve been busy with university work and having started the book. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again…I’m learning through writing the book that there’s a lot to be said for sharing an experience of cyberloss. Here’s a rundown of what I think the most important benefits are:
1. Sharing gives you clarity about the sequence of events.
If some time has passed after the loss of an online friend, it can be difficult to remember the precise sequence of events – talking about them with other people provides a way of keeping the sequence clear.
2. Sharing allows you to remember the good before the bad.
Once some time has passed after a cyberloss, it is beneficial to share, because sharing prompts you to remember the wonderful parts of a friendship rather than the moments you would rather forget.
3. Sharing opens up a dialogue about the person who has passed.
This might be an obvious one, but it’s still a benefit. Once you begin to share, you may find it easier to talk openly about the person who you’ve lost.
4. Sharing is a way of remembering.
Again this is linked to number 3, but sharing is a way of remembering within a group…or writing about it provides a record you can look back at later.
5. Sharing means that their story is not forgotten.
Once you have opened up a dialogue with somebody else about the person you have known, the chances are you will be able to have further conversations in the future and talk openly about your experiences and feelings.
If you can think of any more benefits to sharing your cyberloss story, I’d like to hear from you in the comments. My next post will cover ways of sharing your cyberloss story in more detail.
Wishing you peace and strength on your journeys,