Right now, content for this blog is coming from what I would have liked to know about/read about when first trying to come to terms with Chris’ death- so if there’s anything you would like to read about or contribute to the blog, please comment or email me and let me know.
Today I want to pick up on a theme in my most recent post: ‘Moving on means forgetting.’ Wiser folk than I have differing opinions on this, but that’s the classical view. To ‘move on’ is to emerge at a place in life where you either don’t think about the person you’ve lost, or have total control over the moments when you do. (A laudable aim, in my opinion.)
For those of us who have experienced cyberloss, however, a more realistic aim than this is to create opportunities to share our experience of online friendship, and if the situation arises, also our story of cyberloss. Creating such opportunities gives us a chance to reorganise the chronology of events mentally, and may avoid the sense of panic that arises from being unable to remember the precise sequence of events.
Memorializing through art or music is another way of combating the fear of forgetting- immerse yourself in an art project which reminds you of them, or listen to some music that you shared a love for.
What do you do to remember online friends who have passed on? Please share your experiences and ideas in the comments.
Wishing you peace and strength on your journeys,
- ‘They always know they’re loved’: musings on cyberloss, grief and love (navigatingcyberloss.wordpress.com)
- Cyberloss, grief, memories and choices (navigatingcyberloss.wordpress.com)
- Cyberloss and showing your support (navigatingcyberloss.wordpress.com)
- Discussing cyberloss in the outside world. (navigatingcyberloss.wordpress.com)