I recognise that this post may seem like a repeat of yesterday’s post, but I just wanted to explore the idea of talking about cyberloss outside the realm in which it takes place. I recognise from conversations with one or two readers that it’s not something which we can talk about easily, without fear of being branded abnormal in some way.
I think that’s the cause of at least some of the difficulty which can arise from such losses as those we have experienced. Unless you’re lucky enough to find somebody who has experienced the same thing (which as we know, you probably have better odds of winning the lottery!) or somebody who can empathise completely without having endured the same experience, you’re pretty much stuck in terms of places you can go to discuss this sort of thing. Also, there’s no consolation in realising that this type of experience is only going to affect more people as time goes on.
So, communities like this are going to become more necessary, as is a public understanding that we are not in some way strange for having cultivated a relationship with a person halfway around the world, which we are now trying to mourn the loss of (unsuccessfully in many cases, because of the lack of public understanding- a vicious circle.)
I’d be interested to hear some of your experiences of discussing online loss with people outside the online world- please feel free to share in the comments.
Wishing you peace and strength on your journeys, as ever,