Real world actions to mark online loss

This is a topic which I feel is very important. It links to the issue that we who have experienced the loss of somebody we knew online may not get the chance to attend a traditional service. I am, and will always be, an advocate of personal ceremony in such situations. That is to say, it may be helpful to choose a place which has special meaning to you, and go there as your opportunity to say whatever you need to say to the person you have lost.

I visited St. Nectan’s Glen, Tintagel within a few months of Chris’ passing, and used my time there to make a personal pilgrimage and tribute to her, as I felt she surely deserved. The waterfall is among the holiest places on Earth, in my opinion.


St. Nectan's waterfall

Whilst there, it is possible to write a name and a message on a piece of slate, and leave it there as a memorial to the one you have lost. Much relief can be gained from rituals such as these, but they must be carried out according to your own feelings. If you feel that you are not ready, then it is unwise to perform a ritual of release such as this, as the benefit may well not be there.


Feel free to share about the actions you have taken to mark the loss of an online friend in the real world


About Casey Bottono

I am in love with language. I write poetry and fiction in a wide variety of genres. Most recently, I have been shortlisted as a finalist in the Coalition of Texans with Disabilities' Pen2Paper contest.
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