When grieving the loss of someone you have only known online, there is a reasonable chance that you will not have had an opportunity to attend a funeral or memorial for them. This is where it becomes important to have an opportunity within the cyber community to grieve that person, to remember what they brought to your community.
When the news of the loss that inspired me to start this blog broke, the forum community which Chris had been a valued member of immediately began to share memories, songs and scripture which would help her on her way, but also provided us with an outlet for our communal grief.
Suggestion: Start a topic within the online community, inviting people to share memories. Don’t be afraid to share a few of your own to ‘get the ball rolling’.
Sites such as www.findagrave.com enable the posting of free online memorials, where it is possible to add pictures of the burial site, and leave virtual flowers, a ritual which can be healing in itself if there were things left unsaid between you and the person you have lost.
Online candle lighting is another way to remember people who have passed. Sites such as http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/enter.cfm?l=eng provide this service for free, and allow both a ‘candle’ and a message.
Apart from these, there are many other online memorial sites. If you know of a good one, why not drop a comment, so that others can benefit from your knowledge?