Following my abrupt shift in perspective last Sunday, I’ve been considering what I’m grateful for as a result of Chris’ presence in my life. I know it’s not usually my way to offer ‘tips’ for dealing with this, as nobody can really instruct anybody else on how they should travel their path, but this is just a suggestion.
When we are newly bereaved of our friends, it can often be hard to see past the pain and remember what they brought to our lives. It’s difficult, but they (and we) are so much more than the way they left the world. (I’m still working on realising that, so feel free to dress down on that one.)
I’m grateful for the conversations Chris and I were able to have about George, which spurred my interest in spiritual things. I know I wasn’t the best of students, but I’m hopefully continuing to learn and developing a better understanding.
Through Chris, I also discovered my passion for teaching. Granted, I didn’t have to teach her much - just provided the spark to help her get back into playing guitar. To me, though, helping her get back into playing guitar was part of doing the best I could to help her generally. I couldn’t do any more than I did. Beyond that, I think Chris knew I love(d) her…and I hope that was enough.
I continue to practise the lessons she taught through her life and example, although I had walked away for a time. I suppose I had to wander for a while to find my way back. Thankfully, I have done. It’s a blessing to be feeling good again.
I’d love to hear what you’re grateful for about your friendships, whether online or offline. Now I’ve been thinking about what I’m grateful for in terms of what I learned from Chris, and what we shared, I can begin to notice those qualities in other friendships. Maybe that will also help you. I look forward to reading your comments and sharing in your stories. It’s a blessing to walk with you on this journey.
I’d also like to thank those who have come to visit this place and brought about the milestone of 9,800 views. I didn’t imagine that was possible when I first started.
Wishing you peace and strength on your journeys,